I'm a polyamorous demiromantic asexual, who loves books, is 26 years old, and a college student in a loving relationship. You'll find quotes, my thoughts and anything else I find interesting here. If you want to ask a question, go ahead. I'm all ears =)
i have had HUGE success mixing chopped up crayon bits and chopped up hot glue sticks and melting them together for stamp wax. it takes a couple tries to get the ratio right for whatever crayon you're using (too much crayon = brittle, too much glue = less pigment) but the ingredients are Cheap so i recommend it. melted them in a spoon over a candle and mixed with a toothpick. even added mica powder to a few. having typed this i now realize idk if you are actually interested, i just saw "homemade stamp wax" and the urge to share took control
No, no, I get up to all sorts of shit. You never know! I really appreciate the info.
My partner is an artist, and they once made me this impressionist piece based on one of my favorite photographs of a fawn lying in the shadow of a headstone, but ENTIRELY OUT OF MELTED CRAYON SHAVINGS. Blows my mind:
“it’s weird for queer minors to be friends with queer adults” oh my god. ohhh my god.
intergenerational community support, especially in a community that is split so much age wise as the queer community, is immensely fucking important. get to know older queers and younger queers. this is how communities frazzle out and die to infighting.
the hypothetical queer adult that people are mad over in the post this is refrencing is 35 years old. only 35.
its weird for any minors to be friends with any adults, queer or not. There should be no reason why unrelated adults or minors should be making close relationships in any sense outside of professional ones. I understand wanting education, but they can be taught when they are adults as well.
is this a joke.
That commenter seems to forget that children are human beings too
Has this person never been involved in hobbies or politics or religion or the arts or any environment that normal people interact in?
i learned about Tim Wong who successfully and singlehandedly repopulated the rare California Pipevine Swallowtail butterfly in San Francisco. In the past few years, he’s cultivated more than 200 pipevine plants (their only food source) and gives thousands of caterpillars to his local Botanical Garden (x)
Sometimes, people are really great.
This is also an example of picking One Thing and putting most of your Better The World efforts there. We have so many different important issues to care about and act toward, and it’s tempting to try and do a Little for Many Things - and I’m not saying that little bits of effort don’t add up! They do. But often you’ll make a bigger impact (and possibly have less compassion/activist fatigue) if you direct the majority of your efforts toward one or two things.
A professor gave us an extra credit option: take a picture of yourself outside, doing something that you would not usually do. We were told not to take it too seriously. Here is my entry:
I maintain that sticking my head in the mailbox is not something I do on a regular basis.
Love that some of you are reblogging this. You looked at a picture of a guy with his head in a mailbox and went “yeah”
Can’t wait to see if everyone did something like this or if they had a normal reaction. I will keep you posted.
[ID: a photo of a pale person wearing a black t-shirt and jeans with his head in a mailbox /END ID]
Hello to everyone asking for an update!
The professor has said that he will put all submitted pictures into a powerpoint to be shown in class tomorrow (Tuesday, March 9th). I am very much looking forward to seeing the reaction from him and from the rest of the class. I promise to keep you informed.
Update: the professor saved my picture for last. I was told that I had “truly embodied the spirit of the assignment” and that I had gone “above and beyond.”
Also, to everyone who is worrying about whether or not I got my head out, I was gifted with a very small head, and while I got out just fine I would NOT recommend this if you have a large head or even a normal sized head.
No one wants to admit this but you don’t actually have to eat eggs and dairy for breakfast. Farmers just did that because they’d milk the cows and collect eggs in the morning. You can literally make a sandwich or a bowl of pasta or really anything you want for breakfast. There isn’t some medical reason you have to eat cereal and milk or fried eggs in the morning—our idea of “breakfast food” is an entirely artificial construct. Do what makes you happy.
If you’re like me, you may have had the feeling that since lockdown people have been ruder, more aggressive, and lacking in compassion and empathy. The bad news is, you might be right. Some studies and data coming out show that people have gotten ruder and more aggressive since lockdown (x)(x)(x). And the thing is, if even a few people have gotten ruder and more aggressive over the past few years, that’s unfortunately spreading. Rudeness and aggression are contagious, if someone feels stressed and upset and like the world is against them because of constant cruelty and apathy from others, they may be likely to adapt the same attitude and spread this attitude even more.
However, there’s good news too! Kindness, courtesy, and compassion are also contagious! Acts of kindness and compassion uplift others and inspire them to do the same. You have the power to start a ripple affect with acts of kindness, compassion, empathy, and just good manners. You have the power to put the breaks on or even reverse this trend in aggression and hostility that’s popped up the past few years.
I made this blog because I’m tired of the constant hostility I’ve witnessed in public over the past few years. I think we have the power to do better, if we’re only reminded.
Now you may be wondering, why do good manners even matter? Aren’t they just a bunch of dumb rules made up by old dead people? Well, maybe some manners like “no hats indoors” or “no elbows on the table” are arbitrary and honestly it’s harmless not to follow those, but that’s why I won’t be focusing on good manners that have no clear purpose behind them in this blog. In this blog, I’m going to focus on manners that matter.
By manners that matter I mean, manners that have a clear and definable purpose of showing compassion and empathy to other people. Your words and actions have consequences in how they affect the people around you, manners make sure that they affect others in a good way. Manners are the true social lubricant that makes sharing both private and public spaces with other people better for everyone.Going to work, going to restaurants and shops, and using any public space like roads, sidewalks, and parks is going to be better for everyone if we’re all being considerate and compassionate to those around us. And this matters because, just like I said earlier kindness is just as contagious as cruelty, so when you’re kind and polite to others it will circle back around to you eventually either way.
This is also why I’ll be posting an explanation for every manner I post. I myself an neurodivergent so I understand the importance of needing an explanation behind manners. And even if you’re not neurodivergent I understand why you wouldn’t want to just blindly follow an old social rule without being given a good explanation. This is why I’ll always explain why it’s polite to do x. Why it’s beneficial to you and/or others.
And always remember for every manner I post, I am not forcing you to do any of these. If you are unable to do any given manner I post for any reason, or you just don’t want to, you are free to ignore it and simply carry on with your life. Of course if you’re a wheelchair user it’s going to be harder to open doors for others or if you’re non-verbal it’s not going to be possible to say excuse me whenever you accidentally bump into someone. Consider this my disclaimer that any of these that you are unable to do due to a disability you are not obligated to do.
My mom (72) recently downsized and moved close enough to me that checking on her in person regularly is not really out of my way, but when I was obvious about it she wouldn’t let me “stop-by” because she was, “fine”.
Well, one day I actually needed some aluminum foil so I called and asked if I could borrow enough to cover a baking tin because I didn’t want to run to the store. She said sure, but when I got to her house she needed furniture moved, a wasp nest removed, and her coffee pot fixed. After I got the foil I mentioned each thing cautiously and she let me take care of them for her. So next weekend I’ll need a cup of rice and check on her again.
Don’t “let them think” they’re helping you.
Just LET THEM HELP YOU.
“Hey Mom, do you know how to fix a button? I lost one off my good shirt and I really need to learn.”
“Dad, how do you get your spaghetti sauce so good? If I come over on Saturday can you show me?”
“Playing cards sounds great, Mrs. Simmons, I’ve never learned canasta.”
Elders are also part of your community and they have much to teach you. Exchange. Don’t condescend.
My first question to someone who’s like, “You should give up writing and learn to code!” would be to ask, “Is that how you entertained yourself during the pandemic? With long videos of people coding? Or did you read books and watch TV and movies like the rest of us?”
Worst part about this is I’ve only ever used that yellow square emoji once and it was just to see how it looked. This isn’t who I am. However, in retrospect, I suppose it is
Reading through the notes is a surreal experience please keep adding more to fuel my effervescent consumption of non descriptive emojis
I'm a polyamorous demiromantic asexual, who loves books, is 26 years old, and a college student in a loving relationship. You'll find quotes, my thoughts and anything else I find interesting here. If you want to ask a question, go ahead. I'm all ears =)
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